Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Not the Dessert Part of Life

Lest anyone think everything is all peaches and cream around here. I will dispel that myth. As Mike said last night, "It's just life." I know that, but sometimes I wish it wasn't.

I don't like that on Monday we had to spend $550 to repair one car. Before we even picked it up from the shop, our other car broke down too. Mike declined to even tell me the repair cost for the other vehicle--I think he was worried about my mental ability to handle it. And there is no choice about fixing it--it's the only one all 649 of our children can fit in together.

While visiting the dentist yesterday with Megan, I was told that the previous visit with another child in which 4 cavities were filled was SIX days before the insurance waiting period and they denied paying it. Someone dropped the ball on the phone call I had made-but someone else's misunderstanding-and my lack of double checking is to the tune of $660.

On the heels of the last 12 months and for a landscaper in February, those are some pretty big costs.

I have a child who can not seem to find a group of friends that aren't back-stabbing and mean.

Not to mention the lack of working vehicles, a family to care for and other appointments and commitments has made me unavailable to support a dear friend in the throes of some serious life events. All I can do is stay home and text and pray.

I have another child who requires extra parent assigned homework each night to master a specific math concept.

I have another child who I am beginning to wonder maybe has emotional issues that prayers and love alone aren't solving--and perhaps it is time for professional intervention.

And then there are always far more personal goings-on and the not so personal goings-on that are just the everyday unpleasant stuff that aren't going to find their way into blogosphere.

It is no wonder that yesterday afternoon, while Mike had the two little boys for a few hours, instead of doing anything productive, I climbed into bed and read a book. By dinnertime when Mike returned, he threw off the blankets and told me I had to get out of bed. I told him I quite liked the idea of laying in bed depressed, but he insisted I do otherwise.

I got out of bed and was dropped off at a crowded restaurant to stand in line to pick up dinner. While there, a friend called to tell me her mother-in-law's death is imminent.

It isn't just me.
Life isn't easy for anyone.

8 comments:

  1. I think I liked it better when I thought your life was all peaches and cream. But also gives comfort to know everyone is on the same journey that is called life. Hope things get a bit more sorted for you soon xxx

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  2. I'm sorry so many things are not going well right now. I have a really hard time when we get big unexpected bills, and they sometimes seem to come in groups. The stress of financial worries make it so much harder for me to handle the other every day stresses of life. I hope things look better soon.

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  3. It may be 'just life'. But you don't have to be all giddy about it. In fact, if you were, I would be worried. I am sorry that you are in a downer. My advice- someone that really is in charge will help you overcome...it just always takes me a couple of days. Here's to spring and happier experiences that I hope are coming soon. I will be praying for you and cheering the good times on.

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  4. I've been having a hard time too. My daughter, who has some learning disabilities is failing math and we have tried everything to help her over many years. And I just got called into the school for my 4 year old's behavior problems, which are a continual problem. It's difficult when you have long-term type problems. Sometimes you just wish the problems would solve themselves, but they never do. I'm sorry you're having a rough time Tiffany! If anyone can get through trials and make the best of them, it is you.

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  5. You need to come into Leger's tomorrow for lunch!!! My treat!!

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  6. I felt like I was in a similar place last year with medical bills, car troubles, and work and I'm sure it will only happen again and again. When I get stressed or need a break I can usually be found in the bathtub.

    Not having control makes life stressful. Good luck with everything on your plate. I'm sure you'll make the wisest and best decisions for you and your family.

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  7. Can I just tell you that my favorite was the response of your dear husband throwing off the covers and telling you it was time to get out of bed! Oh how so many of us feel for the financial bills..(had one just yesterday that we thought would be free...but NO, it's probably going to cost us around 4000 bucks..) Sometimes crawling in a hole helps...jk. Hang in there....this too shall pass :)
    Loves

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  8. Tiffany you are a strong woman. Even on the crappiest of days always remember that! We love you.

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